Social workers

One of the disadvantages of how we are becoming a family is that there are other people involved.

God places us in a position that we do not know how to navigate, as in-laws with other foster families. I say this because the three kids we want to adopt also have two brothers that live with another single woman. She wants to adopt the two boys but she has limited capacity for the chaos of lots of kids. She can not handle all five them together and our stance is that THEY deserve to spend time together.

She also thinks our home is too unstructured for her liking, drill Sarge that she is. Oh, I know that that sounds bitter and it is because she is the person who polices my other blog and tried to harm the placement of our kids. Frankly she is a bitter, cliche that strikes me as humorous.

She is in her forties and has not ever been married thus to me, she is bitter herself and carries that unhappiness into her relationships.

Now, no one with five kids can live a completely unstructured life and still get the kids where the need to go, when they need to be there; never mind have them feed, clean and dressed.

Plus we have potty train a four and three year old when no one else was able to.

Foster kids are two to three years behind their chronological age, so even though I have a new born, 3 year old, five year old, nine year old and fourteen year they act 0, 1, 3, 6 and 11. (Yes the 14 year old could technically be a foster kid too and bares the damage of abandonment. What we have to deal with soon is the news that her birth mom is probably going to prison for drugs and she does not know this yet. Personally, I know she will be relieved to KNOW where her mom is because right now she thinks she is just homeless.)

This petty, petty woman, I'll call her Eve just wants to have the kids at her house for visits...but....she only wants ours one at a time.

Foul.

She does not have to hold the other two that are crying because they also miss their brothers and want to see them too. These kids are blood, have lost everything they ever knew, are too young to fight for their own rights, who the hell is she to say they should not ALL get to play together once a week because her fragile constitution can not handle it. Charley & I can handle all five plus the two we have and be fine and they deserve to spend time together. She also tried to make my MS an issue so that we couldn't adopt.

(Insert cuss words here.)

If she would stick around and help it would be fine.

If this were college I'd just kick her fat butt.

Angry? Me?

you bet....it is not about US it should be about the kids.


I hate adults who bring their own little agendas into this stuff, I do not have to like her but she is becoming an in-law of sorts. The social worker does not help because she has her own agenda too, saving her butt from being fired for the piss poor job she does. She actually got a $500 fine the last court date for being late, again, with the paperwork on this case.

Advise me please dear trusted friends.


Alas, I almost neglected to mention the good news, the kids are free and legal to adopt as of Tuesday. That brings us one step closer.