Each step closer to forever for us is a step closer further away for them and do not fool yourselves into believing that they are young enough to not be damaged by the loss. Even the charming little three year girl is able to talk about "two mommas and two daddies" at length.
They have bright futures now because their birth parents loved them enough to give them up last month; how do we ever make sense of that to them?
Yes, we have told them, they deserve to know the truth. I talked with the nine year old and told him we would always honor his birth family in his life, reminded him that he has seen us all embrace.
Still, it must be hard to walk their paths.
Sweetie the children are so beautiful! I think that as time goes by you will find that the sense of love and peace the kids will have, will help them overcome the loss they surely feel now. I'm thrilled that you all will finally become a certified family. By this I mean that they will bear the name of Brown, at least I think they will, won't they?
ReplyDeleteLove and miss you all,
Mom
Good Luck with all that you are about to endure... Being a parent is a Thankless job at times but it is the glances... the kisses... the "I'm glad your my mommy" that makes it ALL worthwhile!
ReplyDeleteIn you last post I forgot to mention structure... HA! I think that word has double meanings. Kids need a "sense" of structure, not boot camp. Our house is so crazy... I can't even begin to tell you, But we laugh, cry and love... at our own risk. Not because its on the schedule... I'm not for mandatory schedules... life is not like that and what happens when things change??? I mean in real life?? You can not always CONTROL real life and if you think you can you are kidding yourself.
Congrats!!! You are always on my mind.
xoxo