She said it felt like I was trying too hard and was telling them just what they wanted to hear. My tone was too soothing...I said no, that is just how I talk. This woman doesn't KNOW me from Adam. Who does she think she is to judge MY tone? Adults who have been supervisors their whole life know how to control themselves....Hello.
Duh.
I feel like explaining to miss "nice lady" that I am moving along quiet naturally though the stages of grief with the foster licensing thing and today I have reached the anger stage. (I won't though because a good friend said not too. Thank you Vince.) Specifically I am angry at her for thinking that she knows my heart after five hours.
How dare she hold my past against me and use something that happened TO ME in my past as a child to destroy my future.
Enough.
I feel better.
Thank you for listening.
I am going cut and paste this into my blog....I hope you don't mind. xxooxxoo
{This is an e-mail reply, I have had many people love on me with passion and concern. Thank you all. I love each of you.}
Christina, if we had gotten angry at every bureaucrat we have had to deal with over the years (and trust us, we have had to deal with many, tales for another day) we would have died of apoplexy or exploded into fragments. We know it's hard to see humor in the situation, but it's how we finally learned to cope with well-meaning but incredibly focussed (and stupid) individuals. Some of them were even unable to detect sarcasm.
ReplyDeleteWe are sending your way all the positive mental energy that we can, and pray that it will help.
Bon & Mal
I just found you "again" and glad I did. I'm praying for you and pray they see that you want to help and love these children.
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It's a shame it's so subjective and they have such a short time to get to know you. I hope things settle and they get the clue on what you have to offer a child.
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Christina,
ReplyDeleteIt seems my worst fears for you came true when the social worker and her higher-ups decided to red flag your case. I am so sorry sweetie. I'm sorry that there are people in this world that would make you pay for something you had no control over. If they cannot accept the extensive counseling that you went through, coupled with your attitude as proof positive that you are no longer traumatized, then there is something terribly wrong with their system. You should not have to pay for something you had no control over.
If I were there I would give those people a serious piece of my mind. If something should happe, I know that you will keep the faith. Perhaps God's will is for you to adopt children rather than be a foster parent.
I am so angry at the social worker and that system! It will be their extreme loss if they don't allow you and Charley to have foster kids.
Love you,
Mom